Most people don't put a lot of time and effort into studying their thoughts and actions, especially whether they're consistent.
Which means that if you worry about others' opinions and judgment of you, you'll most likely notice that other people are doing and saying things that sometimes include silliness. If they were as sensitive and thoughtful as you are, they might have reason to be concerned about what they said.
So while they're judging you for something not 100% "appropriate" - or maybe you just think they are - these same people are "guilty" of doing the things they judge others about. They just believe that their speech and actions are always appropriate.
This is a slightly convulated way of saying that because they don't doubt themselves, they don't examine their actions as closely as you do, and as a result they feel free to do what they want.
Maybe you can have the best of both worlds. Continue being self-reflective while also being
confident. We're all entitled to some silliness and we all have foot-in-mouth moments. Just be sure to notice your other moments as well.
This is a behavior often misunderstood by those who want to be a good person and are trying to be helpful and compassionate.
It's obviously a good thing to want to be kind and considerate. And to be understanding of people who are in distress, including, sometimes, those who behave badly. You want to be tolerant of their predicament.
This becomes a problem for you when you become an enabler and allow someone to take advantage or otherwise be harmful. Adults are responsible for their own behavior unless they aren't capable of doing so. If they fail to work on their issues, that's their responsibility not yours.
It can be difficult and painful to watch them struggle. You may feel their pain intensely. But some people will never resolve their issues, despite your efforts.
Remember that your wellbeing has value beyond being an enabler or a martyr. It's in your best interest to set and maintain boundaries. And there may be unpleasant consequences.
Only you can decide how you want to interact with them. Depending on the situation, you will eventually have to ask yourself how much longer you're willing to place your own health in jeopardy.
How do you move through life?
Do you have a roadmap for your life?
Do you have specific goals that you want to reach by certain dates?
Do you have a concrete vision of how success will look?
How do you handle surprises and uncertainty? Such as Covid-19?
Or do you take life as it comes? You're just along for the ride.
Do you see life as a series of experiences that you have little control over?
Are you waiting for certain things to happen before you can be happy or fulfilled, if at all?
Do you believe it's possible for anyone to influence their future?
I try very hard not to have regrets. I look at past mistakes and challenges as learning opportunities and motivation to change and grow.
Don't think of how much time you've wasted or opportunities you've missed.
Think of what you can do now. Go to your sacred place & sit quietly. Or dance to release your energy.
Ask your dreams to speak to you. Explore. What's calling you?
Write it down or draw a picture of it. Record it. Remember it. Take one step toward making it real.
Large businesses spend vast amounts of money to come up with a memorable slogan to identity them. There are many parts to a brand, but the slogan is supposed to capture the essence of a company in a few words. "Just do it" is one example.
Try doing this for yourself. Brainstorm about all the facets of your personality, your accomplishments, your values - everything that makes you "you." What makes you unique? Or maybe you'd prefer to describe the person you're becoming.
Sensitive introverts tend to be complex beings. Condensing your life into a phrase isn't easy. But give this a try and see what you come up with. Your life is a creation, just like a piece of art or a town or an experience. What name will you give it?
I live in Portland, Oregon where we've endured the coronavirus (like everyone else), protests with varying degrees of violence among persons and toward property and most recently, wildfires with smoke hazardous enough to keep even those fortunate enough to have escaped the flames home-bound.
I think Portland is a battle ground and a testing ground. We've been forced indoors, to consider what's most important to us. When many of our freedoms are removed, what's left?
The protests have showcased battles between and among races, the police/criminal justice system, protesters on the left and right politically and our politicians/government. That's quite a bit to navigate.
Personally, I think we're being directed by Source to reexamine our values and learn to compromise and cooperate. Each new crisis adds to the pressure to change. Each new crisis shows how we're not yet, as a collective consciousness, grasping the true purpose of the turmoil we're experiencing.
Oftentimes, when we have a decision to make and we don't like either of our choices, the best course of action is to wait. Ask for guidance. Usually, if we're patient and stay open-minded, a 3rd option will become available. And it's usually the right one.