people who disappoint

We all make mistakes. But it's painful when someone we think highly of disappoints us.

Are they not the person we thought they were and we're just now seeing them clearly for the first time? They seemed like a kindred spirit, but now we see that we were mistaken.

Or did they just make an error in judgment? A slight that can be forgiven?

As a highly sensitive person, even small betrayals can cut deep. Maybe we needed stronger boundaries - something we can remedy for the future. Or maybe it was our trusting and generous nature wanting to see the best in someone.

One thing we should not do is blame ourselves. This may have been a test of our growth - are we taking care of our needs and not slipping into old patterns of feeling less-than? Being too trusting? There's a delicate balance to maintain and it needs constant attention - self-care versus our gentle and compassionate nature.

​But watch out for people pleasing. It sneaks up on us when we're not watching.